I offer this final advice, because all the clues were there for me when I reflect.

If you read this and you're not sure, then ask Patrick about freerange chickens versus battery hens.

He'll probably tell you (unless he's wised up to this post) that he doesn't worry about the difference between battery/freerange chickens - because 'chickens are stupid.'

I'll break down what this ACTUALLY means. The guy is NOT ONLY a Malignant Narcissist (if it's not ALREADY obvious) he's ALSO a SOCIOPATH who doesnt care about the suffering of other creatures. - if he perceives them as being 'undeserving' or compassion.

RED FLAG. RED FLAG. RED FLAG

PAY ATTENTION TO ALL OF HIS BEHAVIOUR - IT'S TOXIC

''Malignant narcissist - People might describe them as immature, vindictive, liars, petty, thin skinned, hateful, insecure, jealous, paranoid, moody, angry, and draining. And although they encompass those traits, they are completely dependent on their world to feed to them the message that they are superior and the best of the best.''

Link here to excellent YouTube video explaining Malignant Narcissism traits:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oPhw0619Lm0

There aren't that many people who I would suggest should be clinically diagnosed as a textbook Malignant Narcissist but Patrick Cummins is definitely one.

Micro-managing, controlling to the point of absurdity, truly paranoid, mentally/emotionally unstable, inflated sense of own superiority/significance, emotionally abusive. Cruel. Dishonest. Needy. Demanding. Will attempt to destroy everything (and relationship) in your life - for the Hell of it - if he perceives his unhealthy controlling tactics being challenged. Classic malignant narcissist. Will attempt to control every single aspect of your life if he can get away with it. Every. Single. Aspect.

''The Vindictive Narcissist

While it’s possible to co-exist with a Bullying Narcissist, provided you don’t pose too obvious a threat, once you become the target of a Vindictive Narcissist, he will try to destroy you. You may have challenged his superior status in some way you don’t even recognize, and as a result, he needs to prove you the ultimate loser by destroying you. He’ll talk trash about you to friends and family.''

Patrick Cummins is an unreasonable person who has to insert himself into every corner of the lives of those around him - often pretending he's the 'good guy' and a 'people-pleaser'' in order to control. You should quickly realise this isn't about the comfort of other people, or he wouldn't constantly insert himself into EVERYTHING and transgress people's personal boundaries and interfere in relationships. It's about a malignant narcissist putting himself front row centre, on stage ALL. THE. TIME - ie ''Look at me! Look at me! Look at me! What a nice guy I am.'' etc etc etc. A malignant narcissist CANT STAND not being the centre of attention. All. The. Time. Negative or positive. Isn't in the least bit averse to embarrass you publicly to try to score points for himself. Nothing like putting someone down publicly to make yourself feel superior and powerful. Will also lie - publicly.

''The Bullying Narcissist

This is the man who builds himself up by humiliating other people. Though he may share common traits with the Grandiose or Know-it-All Narcissist, he is more brutal about the way he asserts his superiority. He often relies on contempt to make others feel like losers, proving himself a winner in the process. He will belittle and mock you, and when he needs something from you, he may become threatening. At his most toxic, he will make you doubt yourself and your value as a human being.''

Fancies himself a 5 star chef. OF COURSE. He's a NARCISSIST. Food is a huge part of his control drama. Including trying to control what you eat... while he's not busy criticising what you cook or how, or what you eat. Or do. Nevertheless his food is generally very average. Bland. Lacks flavour.

''''The Grandiose Narcissist

This type more clearly demonstrates a familiar kind of narcissism we all recognize: He sees himself as more important, and more influential, than everyone else. He touts his own accomplishments, exaggerates their importance, and wants to elicit your envy or admiration.''

Sharing so that others (particularly women) have a better idea what they're dealing with and don't have to waste time wondering. These sorts of people are like wrecking balls in people's lives and can take years to recover from. They should come with a label that says, ''WARNING: Very toxic. Vindictive. Malevolent. Steer clear.''

Consider this a warning label.

These articles may help you to understand the mind and M.O of a malignant narcissist:

http://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2016/06/20-diversion-tactics-highly-manipulative-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-use-to-silence-you/

http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com.au/2012/01/narcissists-cause-ptsd-for-their.html

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/shame/201509/5-types-extreme-narcissists-and-how-deal-them.

''The difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism is the presence of a personal attack and impossible standards. These so-called “critics” often don’t want to help you improve, they just want to nitpick, pull you down and scapegoat you in any way they can. Abusive narcissists and sociopaths employ a logical fallacy known as “moving the goalposts” in order to ensure that they have every reason to be perpetually dissatisfied with you.''

''Narcissists on the extreme end of the spectrum usually have no interest in self-insight or change. It’s important to cut ties and end interactions with toxic people as soon as possible so you can get centered in your own reality and validate your own identity. You don’t have to live in someone else’s cesspool of dysfunction.''